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Wednesday, December 16, 2009

How did I get here?

My brother in law is graduating from college this Saturday, from the University of Iowa.  While I went to Iowa State University (go Cyclones!), I have no real animosity towards U of I, unless of course, it's the annual Cy-Hawk game.  And then it's on- I'm like a Cyclone fan from your worst nightmare (if you're a Hawkeye fan, that is).  I'll talk crap & razz you until you finally give in.  And then, if the Cyclones don't win (like this year) ... or even when they do win, I'll laugh & say it was all in good fun anyway!

Anyway, this 'time of year' has me thinking back to when DH & I graduated from ISU.  It seems like so much has happened in the 3 years since we graduated, that it can't possibly have only been 3 years ago.  We've moved from ISU to the Quad Cities (Iowa side), to Seattle, to Small City in Illinois, to Downtown Chicago, to Suburban Chicago, Illinois.  That's technically 6 homes in 3 years.  Yep, no big deal.  Except when you add that first of all, Seattle is all the way across the country where no one we are related to lives & we had to miss Thanksgiving & Christmas, weddings & birthdays, etc. etc etc.  And we got married, in Iowa, while we lived there.

We also found out I was pregnant the week after we moved into our very first purchased home is that Small City in Illinois, had Baby B (almost exactly 1 year ago) & then moved away from our very first purchased home when B was 4 months old.

So how did I get here?  3 years ago I was a young Apparel Merchandising, Design, & Production major at Iowa State University.  A member of a sorority who had moved out of the chapter house to live with my boyfriend, who was at that point, my fiance.  I was still grabbing coffee & going to class where I learned about who Bonnie Cashun was & what she did for the world & the live & times of a Miss Coco Chanel.  My favorite textbook was Vogue.  I was a bartender at a lovely restaurant bar known for it's yummy pizza & it's fabulous beer selection (over 110 beers ON TAP).   I was making martinis with good friends in our apartments & laughing about who did what at the last house party.  I was reminiscing about the years before, saying 'It seems like so long ago... when we stole the Phi Delts composite & watched the ATO's roast a pig in their parking lot.   And now, it really does seem like so long ago.  Like an entirely different lifetime.  Maybe someone else's life?

How did I become a stay at home mom in the Suburbs, with an almost 1 year old son, & a husband with whom I'll be celebrating 3 years of marriage this Spring?  How did I become the one who has 'traded in' all my sorority sisters for my mom's group (no, I'm not not friends with them anymore- we just don't live in the same city! Some of them are my very best friends!)? How did I become the girl who can only drink 2 drinks or I'm not going to want to get up in the morning?

I guess it's a simple answer, really.  I became this way because ultimately, that's what I wanted.  And I think that's what God wanted for me & my family.  A small family unit, who adores one another, who can't imagine life without that 'driving me crazy' 85 pound dog, & that absolutely beautiful (for a boy!) baby boy, & that hardworking, generous man who I'm lucky enough to be spending the rest of my life with.  I'm lucky enough to want to stay up wrapping Christmas presents for my family with my amazing husband.  Lucky enough to want to make dinner each night (okay, maybe not each night), while a small person has attached himself to my leg or while he throws everything he can access out of the kitchen cabinets.   I'm lucky enough to know that I should not take a second of this for granted, because just 3 short years ago, I didn't really have any of it, & while that was fun & all, this is the best feeling ever.

So I'll remember that this Saturday, while I watch my brother in law walk across that stage to accept his degree.  I'll remember while I watch him hug his fiance & while they snuggle their nephew, B, a little.  I'll remember that... while I watch them spend the next few years 'getting here'.


I'll remember how much fun it was, going from there to here.

3 comments:

Perplexio said...

I hope you don't mind, but I found your blog when browsing bloggers here in Aurora. I too took a rather circuitous route to end up in suburban Chicago.

Kaylyn said...

You totally made me cry!!! How does life go by so fast but then you look at it and realize you have everything you've ever wanted? It may not be exactly as you dreamed but it's still pretty great!

Amy said...

What a great post! This brought tears to my eyes too.